“There just ‘words’….sorry for my words”

This was said to me and evoked emotions as “words” are powerful and, when said with anger and aggression, have a lot of force and as violent as hurting a person with a punch with words of attack that imprint our bodies, psyche and mind – bringing negative and low energy forces that damages us internally but not as obvious as a bruise from a punch. It’s a form of attacking your being, though no physical touch is involved, the emotional impact of the angry words is much higher and leave a longer imprint and scar just like a bruise from a punch it’s a lot deeper and leaves a lasting impact inside of us.

We need to learn to stand up to those who say it’s “just words” to excuse their aggressive way of communicating as their attacking and harmful if we don’t put up our shields and firmly say “no” within ourselves to stop it damaging us mentally. Also to notice that those “words” are more a projection of that individuals flaws projecting onto you and nothing to do with you and who you are. Yes, initially it does hurt but once you take a step back and come out of the conflict, change perspective of what’s said and will be clear that it’s not a true reflection of yourself and more that person’s own issues being projected onto you.

A way to help yourself and technique I use is to imagine a circle around you and a circle around the person attacking you with words (verbally or written in messages). As you notice their circle coming into yours notice how you’re feeling and then imaginatively move that persons circle out of yours and be in your own circle of wholeness – from that perspective now look at what you notice and the projection from that person will be clear – It’s got nothing to do with you. It’s a simple technique to get you back in your wholeness and from that perspective the person attacking you with words cannot harm you with their projections and get clarity on your next step from your wholeness on how to respond (or not!) to that person.

I recently received an angry message from someone which was attacking and very aggressive. Using the above technique my initial reaction was my body shook and I felt threatened, attacked, scared and intimidated as their circle was in mine. I then stepped away from my phone and imagined a circle of my wholeness and that person’s circle separate from mine. From this perspective I could see that this person was simply caught up in their angry and aggression and they cannot harm me as I’m in my wholeness and just need to turn my back on the abuse saying a big fat “NO” to myself to not attach meaning to it and took a step away. Physically moving away by taking a step, drawing a circle around myself and the affirmative “no” to myself completely changed my perspective to better handle the situation and adjust my mental state.

This is an example of a coaching technique using your body and imaginations to change your state instantly and see the issue from another more empowering state.

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